The beauty of the In Between.

Virtus 3155

I’ve always been a fast walker. 
Doing my best to get from point A (where I am) to point B (where I need/want to be) as quickly and efficiently as possible.
I don’t take enough notice of the in between, to be honest for a few years there, I probably didn’t even know there was an in between if I did, I paid it minimal attention.

I think I’m figuring out how to notice it often, I’ll get to that.

If I want something, I’ll do my very best to make it happen as quickly as possible. This has been a fantastic attribute when it comes to improving a chosen discipline, adapting to change, or starting a business. 

However, when it comes to my peace of mind, health and sanity, fantastic probably wouldn’t be the word I’d use. 

For a few years, I practically lived by the saying “An imperfect plan violently executed now is better than a perfect plan, executed next week” 

This was great, it got shit done, but it created a lot of internal conflict I’m still unpacking. 

The thing is, you need balance. At times you need to be a bull at a gate, others, not so much, patience is what you need.  
I guess my point here is you need to be able to have the tact to stop at any time of your life and be able to discern between the need to go fast or to slow down. 

My need for patience and stillness has become more and more important for me over the last few years. As my responsibilities grow (staff, clients, fiance, friendships, family) my decisions affect significantly more than just me.

All of those adult responsibilities that they try to tell us about but we don’t listen until they all hit at once. 

“If it is right, it happens. The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.” // John Steinbeck 

I find it easy to go fast, I’m working on learning to slow down. I think I’m making progress. 

Walking (slowly), writing, training, discussions and meditation all help. But one tool, in particular, does it better than the rest. 

My secret weapon for slowing my brain down, for making better decisions and improving awareness of myself and a given situation…

One breath. 

One intentional, quality inhale and long exhale is all it takes to completely change your physiology (and mindset)

Good shit takes time. Don’t rush. It took me 10 years to get engaged and there’ll be potentially (doubtful) 10 years until the wedding. 

My point. 

Spend time in the in-between, embrace it, enjoy it. That’s where most of this beautiful thing we call life happens.

Be amazing.